Hello my beautiful friends, welcome back to my blog :). There has been so much going on in my life these past weeks: my big move, painting, aaaaand: redesigning the blog website!
Yes, I have cleaned up the website for you guys to make it more simplified and easier to navigate. Feel free to check out Happy Solitude's new look! It's been a labor of love, and I hope you enjoy the new look and feel <3.
Now, onto the main part of the blog post...
Over the last two weeks, I have been working on painting the main room in my studio. As I was working, these are the words that kept coming to me:
"Nothing worthwhile ever took five minutes!"
With my sister painting next to me, I would say that aloud as my arm started trembling from holding the paintbrush for too long. We would both laugh as I said those words, but really, the reminder was more for me because of everything that was going on in my head...
I couldn't stop thinking about how this paint project was taking so long, how I initially thought it would take only an afternoon but was turning out to take days. My mom, sister, and I would paint another coat only to step back and see that it was still a little patchy and we needed yet another coat. It was then that I would think to myself in my impatience: how is this taking so long?
We are living in a world right now where almost everything is instantaneous, so when something takes longer than we expect, we are not used to it.
We expect to get everything we want at lightning speed-- our pages online to upload immediately, our packages to show up next day, even to get responses to some texts right away.
We are living in a world where we are shown the beautiful results but rarely get the opportunity to fully see and appreciate the effort and time it took to get there. Video editing on YouTube and TikTok videos makes it seem like a piece of artwork or home improvement project only took five minutes when it really took five hours. That can make us feel disheartened when we try it on our own and realize it's a whole involved process.
We see one-sided views of the end products, without really seeing the hard work that goes into planning, coordinating, and executing that project. The slow and meticulous work is mostly hidden.
It makes sense then why we are hard on ourselves when we decide show up differently in our lives and put our heart into something that matters, only to find that it's more difficult and not as fun as it seemed in our imagination.
Nothing worthwhile ever took five minutes. The beauty and satisfaction of a finished product is almost always the fruit of many long hours of arduous work and preparation.
Why am I bringing this up?
Well, when I was mid-way through a painting project that I thought would only take me a few hours but had already taken a few days, I was tempted to think: you're moving so slow, how are you still here?
How are you still here.
How often do we say this to ourselves in real life? How often are we hard on ourselves for being "still here" when we think we should already be "over there."
A long time ago when I was discerning religious life and anxious about what God wanted me to do with my life, there was an older woman from my church who used to call and check in with me randomly. She would always end her phone calls with the most soothing words for my heart: "Hey, you are exactly where you are meant to be."
I felt like she was my guardian angel during that little phase of my life reminding me to relax, and that finding my direction in life is a process, and to trust that process.
Today, I say the same thing to you.
Right now in this moment, wherever you are, you are exactly where you are meant to be.
If you don't know what your career path is.... you are exactly, in this moment, right where you are meant to be. If you don't know if you will lose your job soon.... don't worry: right here, right now, you are exactly where you are meant to be. If you are aching for a relationship, someone to love deeply and truly.... good: where you are right now is exactly where you need to be.
Things that are worth doing and worth discovering take time, and that's okay. Don't feel discouraged if it's taking longer than expected.
Because after all...
Nothing truly worthwhile took only five minutes ;) .
Sending you lots of love,