Updated: Apr 10
Friends, around the beginning of this year, I met someone, and his name is Daniel. We've been together for almost half a year now, and I feel so grateful to have him in my life.
Something I have learned during the early phase of being in a relationship is that with all the excitement of being in love, I found myself spending less time pursuing the things that I loved to do so much before I was in a relationship-- the things that made Daniel fall in love with me in the first place.
I used to host letter writing parties, make my own leather-bound journals, and organize artsy events. Somewhere along the way, as I put our relationship at the forefront, I began forgetting about my little dreams, the things I love doing, and I am embarrassed to say that I even stopped making time for solitude.
Solitude-- whether you're single or in a relationship-- is where all those little dreams are born and get incubated until they are ready to come to life. It's essential in order to find happiness in any stage in life.
Side note: Even though I call them "little" dreams, it's really the little things that make life so meaningful in the end. So really although they are little, they are a big deal.
I was watching a TedTalk the other day about a lady that runs a group where complete strangers come together to be honest about their feelings, and to share what they wish they could do but cannot, in hopes of helping each other realize their "impossible dreams."
The speaker was saying that so many of us go through our lives surrounded by people who make us do what we have to do. We have to do our taxes. We have to pay our bills. We have to go to work/school. That's great and all, but what if we surrounded ourselves with people who were there to make us do what we want to do? What if there were people in your life who made you do the things you love but make excuses not to do?
I feel grateful because after having a conversation with Daniel about how we were both feeling like we were missing pursuing our little dreams, we both decided we would be someone who would encourage the other to do the things we love.
These are some tips for realizing your impossible dream:
1. Identify your dream
Really spend some time with yourself and figure out what it is you would like to do. What are you excited about? What has made you feel excited to be alive in the past? For me, it's organizing a social gathering. I recently decided I want to create an event where a bunch of my friends get together to make DIY leather hair ties. The more specific it is, the more real it is, so be specific! Writing it down might help to narrow down what you want.
2. Talk about your dream like it’s already happening
This one is key. Last weekend, I told my friend Denise that I was going to have a gathering in September to make leather hair ties and relax with friends. In reality, I have nothing prepared and don’t know exactly what it’s going to look like, but talking about your dream like it‘s already a reality somehow helps you end up actually doing it!
3. Remember that your little dreams matter
You perhaps make excuses because maybe you think going on a vacation isn’t that important, or trying that pottery class can wait, or going skiing is too expensive. The truth is we put our little dreams on hold because we don’t allow ourselves to think they are that important. Well today, I’m personally giving you permission to make your little dreams a priority. Your dreams matter. The sparkle and excitement in your heart matters. Who knows, by pursuing your own little dreams, you’ll inspire others to do the same. Do it for the people you love around you.