Updated: Apr 10
When I was in college, I had a period in my life when both of my previous flatmates moved out and all of a sudden, the apartment was empty. It was just me living on my own for about 3 months until I could find a new roommate.
Now, some might really enjoy living on their own and the freedom and space it brings. For some time, I really did enjoy this newfound space and privacy. This might sound weird, but one of my favorite things to do when I was living alone was blast music and leap around the house, dancing to my favorite tunes. It was very liberating :).
But after awhile, the fun of freedom and being in command of my own space started to fade, and I started to feel a little lonely.
And being single at the time, I started to feel even lonelier.
So one day, as I was shopping at Trader Joe's for my weekly groceries, I saw the flower section, and all the pretty bunches made me so happy. I always thought that in order to have one of these beautiful bouquets, I had to have a special someone who would give them to me.
Just as I was about to start feeling sorry for myself, a new thought came to me.
It said, Hey, why do you have to wait for a man to buy you flowers? Why can't you buy flowers for yourself?
The thought made me smile because it was so simple and so true. If you're single, what's stopping you from enjoying the simple things in life? What’s stopping you from enjoying something like a little bouquet of flowers?
So on that day, I did something revolutionary. I picked up a bunch of baby's breath, I walked them over to the counter, and I bought them for myself. It was a liberating, joyful feeling, and it's a feeling that I want you to experience, too :).
So this is my challenge to you.
Sometime this week, go and buy yourself some flowers. Not for any special occasion. Not for anyone else. Simply for yourself.
Place them somewhere you can see everyday, like near your door on your way out of the house. Let them be the first thing to greet you when you come home and remind you how special you are, and that you are someone worth celebrating. Because you are :).
So, why are flowers so powerful?
Various studies show that plants have healing effects. When flowers were placed in a hospital room, bedroom, or lobby, they were able to help people feel more at ease– and for patients, even sped recovery.
There are many explanations for why flowers and plants have this effect on us, but my personal favorite is related to communication and a theory about love.
The fact that there is a vibrant, living thing in a room communicates one main idea to those who enter that room: There is love in that room– someone caring and nurturing that plant.
Watch what happens when after a few weeks, you remove all plants and flowers from your home. You might feel like something that gave you life and warmth is missing.
I skipped a few weeks of buying flowers one time. When my sister came to visit me, she told me she felt like something was missing but didn't know what. She seemed unsettled, looking around trying to figure out what it was.
Once you start buying flowers for yourself regularly, you'll realize the sparkle of joy they give you, as well as those who visit you.
I like this flower idea, but aren't they expensive?
That's what I used to think. But I have found that if you buy flowers at the right place, they can be cheaper than a drink at Starbucks.
My number one favorite place to buy flowers is at Trader Joe's. I'm someone who gets bored easily, and TJs has a lot of seasonal flowers, which makes it fun for me to change things up and choose something new every week!
In addition, sometimes the best things to put in a vase are free.
Every now and then, I go on nature walks and pick eucalyptus branches that fall from the trees. Even just a small frond can make such a big difference in your home.
So, hopefully this post gives you some ideas of how you can start buying yourself flowers, and begin making flowers a ritual that you look forward to each week.
Buying myself flowers changed my life; it helped empower me to enjoy the little things, and I hope it does the same for you <3.
Sending you so much love,