Why I Don't Have an Instagram

Some of you may be wondering why I don't have an Instagram account for Happy Solitude. You may be wondering why I don't have any kind of social media at all...

How to Come Clean of Social Media (post coming soon)

Every ex-social-media-user has a story, and mine started about 10 years ago in high school when I first got my first Facebook page. At first, it was exhilarating, and then it became a source of deep insecurity and stress. After a long process of deactivating and reactivating my account, I finally came clean and left the social media world for good. 

Leaving social media has been one of the best decisions I've made for myself. I'm more present, less self-conscious, and overall more at peace.

It's been over 10 years of coming clean of social media, and I'm ready to never go back. I just love my life and sanity too much!

When I was deciding how I would share Happy Solitude with the world, many people encouraged me to start an Instagram. And I did. Only to find myself in a place that felt "off."


While social media can have many good benefits such as bringing people together, I really believe that it keeps us from being present with those around us. We get distracted by our notifications, distracted by the people online who give us their breadcrumbs of affection and attention when the people giving us their whole loaf are right in front of us. More importantly, I truly believe that social media usage can turn into an addiction.


This is why Happy Solitude does not have an Instagram and you can expect it never will. 

If you give them the permission to feed you, you also give them the power to starve you.


I heard this saying once, and it really stayed with me. It's interesting how the never-ending social media pages are called "feeds." When you give them the permission to feed you, you also give them the power to starve you... It's something to ponder on. 

What if we lived in a world where there were no feeds? Where technology and social media were designed to enrich our life not consume it. I'm not on social media because I believe that our human race deserves better. I believe that we deserve better than a constantly connected but distracted life.


I will only connect to my readers on my webpage and via email because I believe that you deserve better than a social media site that's designed to hook you and take advantage of your time and attention. 

Some may say I am extreme. Some may say that social media changed their life for the better.

If that's you, know that I am not denying that. Sure it can have some good effects. But ultimately, we can all agree that social media feeds are designed to keep us there as long as possible, and keep us coming back as frequently as possible.

If you do have social media, I invite you this day to think about how you use it. You and your loved ones deserve better than a distracted, addicted life.

Secondly, if you made it to the bottom of this page, thank you. Thank you for being here with me and supporting a blog that has no social media. I hope that my message of encouraging people to be happy in their own solitude has made a difference in your life. If it has, I invite you to share it today with a friend so that they can also get the inspiration and encouragement from the blog. Above all, I hope that Happy Solitude continues to enrich and encourage you in your journey of getting to know and love yourself.

Sending you lots of love,

Stephanie xo

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